We’ve all heard that food for 1 is just for fun… but what if it’s always a battle instead? Dropped (or thrown) food, mess, refusal to eat – and everyone else’s child seems to be happily eating everything in sight! What if they still don’t eat at 1.. or 2… or 3… When an ASD sensory processing disorder diagnosis comes it either bowls you over or everything clicks into place – it explains so much about the WHY, but you still don’t have the information you need on HOW to get your child to eat anything nutritious!
When you have a toddler refusing to eat it’s time to take a deep breath and give control back to your child. Yes, we hate mess but exploring food is an important developmental phase for little ones. In younger children it’s the result of learning to control and coordinate food and then in older toddlers it’s for cause and effect – there is so much to explore when it comes to food (whether it’s the noise it makes or the textures… or making Mummy scream “noooooo!” as she tries to catch a falling bowl of spaghetti). Believe it or not, when toddlers play with their food it can help them to become better eaters!
Luckily there are things we can do to make meal times easier, ways to get your child to eat.
Give them their independence. Small people love being independent, taking that away can make them anxious. Let them feed themselves and they can explore their food and develop more confidence with food.
Take a step back. If you’re anxious the chance of your child picking that up is very high – even if you think you’re hiding it well. If your child sees your anxiety they’re going to think meal time is stressful and won’t be as receptive to new food. You need toddler cutlery with a choke guard if that’s something that worries you. With a choke guard, you don’t have to worry about how far in the fork goes.
Get appropriate utensils. If your child can’t hold their fork it’s going to fall and that’s going to make a mess. You want utensils to have a short, ergonomic handle that helps with motor skills and is easier to hold for babies, toddlers and those who need to strengthen their fine motor control. Grabease has a cutlery set recommended by occupational therapists as the handles actually strengthen the finger muscles that your child needs for drawing, writing and holding their toys making life easier as they meet other developmental milestones.
Give small portions and top up if they need more. Your child’s tummy is tiny and maybe that huge pile of food is really intimidating and offputting straight away! Your child might need their food to not touch each other to start. Get in touch with Little Bites for a free initial consultation and I can help you find out the first step for your child to make dinner time a stress-free and fun family time.
Involve them in cooking and baking, get the to hand you the carrot, push the chopped veggies into the pan or salad bowl. These are little steps that will start to make your child more comfortable around different food groups.
Be consistent. Giving a piece of toast because your child didn’t touch their nutritious dinner teaches them that there are other options without even trying. Follow your Little Bites strategies and have the same rules every day. Children, especially those with an Autism diagnosis, thrive on routine, knowing your expectations and having boundaries. It’s much easier for them to know what’s happening next and what’s going to happen if they try to push those boundaries.